Saturday, March 28, 2009

Back from Missouri

I flew back to Missouri this week to take my comps for my masters. I am exhausted. I'll post more puppy pics tomorrow.

Monday, March 23, 2009

They're here!

Black and Tan Female

Mom, Noriz

Sable Male

Friday, March 20, 2009

Compassion


Oz's dad, Bastin, taking a bite. Isn't he awesome?
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Well, the puppies are five weeks old but no pics yet. There was a scorpion invasion so they had to be moved up north for a few weeks. Pics will be posted Monday for sure. Check back. They are awesome pups and the pics will be wonderful, I know. Ms. Babawa is taking them, so look for them.

I have been having a lot of anger lately, not sure why exactly. It is something I have struggled with my entire life. As I mentioned before, I believed that once I got that lovely little girl's liver and faced death, this would somehow change how I perceived and reacted to the world. Well it did--for awhile!

I also know that what was a survival technique when I used -- anger -- becomes a glaring defect of character in recovery.

I have been struggling with a coworker who has some real issues, complete with a lot of drama and chaos, often directed at me. Yesterday I'd about had enough so I went to a noon meeting at the nearby homeless shelter. I walked in the door and on the chalkboard there they had these two words, with some pages to read: Anger / Compassion.

It didn't hit me immediately, but later in the day I realized that while it is relatively easy for me to be compassionate to the still-suffering addicts I come in contact with, and to a lesser extend family members, in the workplace I have clear expectations about how people will behave and time and time again, people don't behave as "Two Dogs Sees It."

So last night I hit another meeting on my way home and heard what I needed to, as I usually do. That is that removing my defects of character comes in God's time not mine. (You know "I want patience and I want it NOW!) All I can do is ask and be ready.

So what do I need to do when I'm trying to rid myself of these troubling defects? Exactly the opposite, and to me, today, compassion is the opposite of anger.

Last night I went to a business meeting and ran into an old family friend. Yesterday would have been my mother's 86th birthday. We talked a lot about my parents since he worked with them and knew them both very well. It reminded me that this person I am wrestling with, and yes, it is about egos on both our parts, did not have the benefit of the parents and upbringing and love that I had. She is not in a program that can give her the tools of life management that I've been so freely given.

I read one of Marianne Williamson's books, I think it was A Return to Love. In it she states that the person who is more spiritually advanced is the one who is responsible for the tone of the relationship. Hm, ponder that one awhile.

So it's back to square one and looking at me and my behaviors. In the end, that's really about all we can do, isn't it? Oh yes, and pray.

Friday, March 13, 2009

Liberation

I was at first bummed that I had to go private on my blog since I have to remain so anonymous and after a few years of this, I am close to being linked with my real identity. So until I can clean up the blog, I have to be private.

However, it is also liberating because now I can say whatever the fuck I want and do not have to worry about what anyone thinks.

Also, some of my previous followers do not show emails on their blogs, so if you know someone who wants to view, they need to post a traceable e-mail (to their blog or website) and I will invite them, too. This is a bummer, but I've been living a double life so long I'm not sure I would know how to do this differently. Soon, I can go save the world and not worry about my past. (Isn't that a promise somewhere?)