Saturday, June 08, 2013

Focus on the Donut, Not the Hole

I ran into my first sponsor at a meeting the other day and she is always full of great clichés and wisdom. She said when she first came to the rooms, she became upset because "so many people were relapsing." Her sponsor told her, "Focus on the donut; not the hole."

In a few days I'll be in the rooms 28.5 years. Believe me, I've seen a lot of people come and a lot of people go. This is not a program for the faint of heart, because it isn't easy to stay clean for years and years, through life on life's terms. But I joined the No Matter What Club a long while ago. The grace of God, at least three meetings a week, a continuous relationship with a sponsor, service, a support group, a belief that if I choose to use I'll never make it back completely -- these are the things that have kept me being part of the donut.

Last night's meeting topic was "miracles in recovery." Each one of us, if you used and drank the way I did, are miracles. I was never able to figure out why I got it when so many I loved could not. But I don't look a gift horse in the mouth. I stay active and don't take my recovery for granted.

These are the things that have worked for me for almost 30 years. You, too, are probably doing the deal if you're reading this. If not, why not? It truly is the softer, easier way, at least from where I sit.


Katherine Lewin said...


I am enjoying your blog. I'm 19 years old and in recovery in AA. I love reading other peoples' experiences in recovery outside of the meetings that I go to. I recently published my first book, a fiction story of five teenagers who get into recovery. If you happen to read it, I'd be curious to know your experience with it. It's called The Mango Thieves: New Beginnings, on Amazon.

I also have a blog about my recovery called New Beginnings; it's on my website at Hope to hear back from you! It's great fun to correspond with other writers in recovery.

Katherine M.

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